How Do I Create My Best Life?

Who’s ready to get a little bit better? You should just shout YES! Wherever you are right now, just shout it! So here’s a big question, How do I create my best life? Well, I just wrote an Amazon Best Seller with a mentor and friend of mine, Bill Walton. The book is called Creating Your Best Life: Discovering Your God-given Potential. It’s a really great book. If I were to sum the book up for you in a nutshell… you want to create your best life? You’re going to have to shift your expectations and realize that you have the power to create your best life and begin to create a new level of certainty around that. 

You’re going to have to do a lot of things if you want to create your best life, BUT if you don’t shift your expectation that you can in fact live your best life… You’re not going to have your best life. 

In my personal daily affirmations I include my best life is sustainable and I am living it everyday.I’m not waiting for some moment in the future when I make all the gains or when I close the gap. No, I am living for my gains today and my best life is sustainable. Everyday, my expectation is to experience my best life; that good things come, that opportunities come… and this book we wrote really drives this home. In the back of the book, we talk about one of the most essential components of creating your best life and it is often one that people miss, they neglect, or they diminish the importance of it. It is not prioritized. 

And before we started to write this book… Bill had been working on building this concept for over 25 years, living it everyday knowing that he was supposed to write this book finally capturing all of it together: step by step, broken down. It is the process for creating, manifesting your best life and it is powerful, but there was a missing piece. And when Bill and I came together, there was just this synergy and this click because the part that was missing – there were people who could hear him teach these concepts and apply them to their lives and that was the minority. There were those that would hear his teaching and apply it short-term or not at all… what was missing was the support and community necessary to be applying the principles he was teaching. 

That is what I brought to the picture. And so Transformation Coaching, my company, is the exclusive provider of coaching services for the people who want to Create Their Best Life. Read the book, join a weekly mastermind, join the community. How do you have your best life? You know the answer: Proximity. 

More than certainly you are going to have to shift your expectation BUT if you don’t level up your peer group, the people that you are surrounding yourself with are going to hold you back from stepping into that best life that you have envisioned. NO. MATTER. HOW. FIRM. YOUR. EXPECTATION. IS. You are going to have to level up your peer group… YOU are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Show me your friends and I will show you your future. Your life will be a direct reflection of the expectations of your peer group. 

It is kind of interesting because the book is all about shifting your expectation and we brought it together with proximity. Proximity is power that your life will be the direct reflection of the expectations of your peer group. If you don’t get around people that all their expectations align with your expectations or even if their expectation pull you up to a higher level, you are never going to be able to create your best life, the way you envision it. And because of that I thought I would give you a few points on what happens when you level up your proximity. 

I’ve also got some cool stories to share with you as I give you these points on leveling up your peer group. When you get around a new environment of proximity, you put yourself around the right people who are thinking and living and achieving at a higher level… not just that, but they’re walking in another level of joy and fulfillment. They’re living in their purpose and they’re living on purpose. What happens when you start getting around those people that are intentional about making the world a better place, not just making their life better? 

Number one, your wins increase… you level up your wins. What do I mean by win? This is the language I use constantly; every single mastermind call, most of my coaching calls start with me asking, What are your wins? And I even do this just about every evening with my family at dinner. I asked my kids last night while we were at a Mexican restaurant – one of my kids had the audacity to say that they didn’t have any wins… and I was like Son, come on bring me your wins. But either way, they know how to find their wins, but in this application you wins level up. Let me share an illustration from a mastermind call this past week. 

One of my friends and clients had a pretty cool win. He’s a broker and just closed on an extremely large multi million dollar deal and his commission was substantial. It was two different deals and he originally had said it was half a million then after doing some math, he was like it is actually $602,000. That’s an awesome win right, but he also shared that hailed in comparison to receiving a video from his daughter leading worship on stage in their church this past week. The money was a win, but the relationship, the family component, the purpose was BIGGER. Well, then I got a call from another member of that mastermind, Hey, Mark… guess what? I had 102,000 day of sales. Like, my boys wins level up because of proximity. 

And when you get around the right people, all of a sudden the wins you are achieving, the targets you are going after become bigger… again, this is not about money. We are talking about impact, we are talking about influence. We are talking about family, legacy, and fulfillment… These are wins! 

Just to give you another illustration that it is not always about the money… One of the guys in a mastermind said he started writing notes to his wife everyday and just leaving them in different places and started seeing the impact on her. And after that he started sending text messages to his teenage daughters and he is seeing the ripple effects. Others in the group that had heard that win, they wanted some of that so they jumped on the call the following week and did something similarly to impact those around them. Relationships growing. 

Number two, your mindset levels up. See when you’re in an environment where people are talking about big things and doing big things, not just talking BUT doing big things and increasing their level of generosity. There’s a scarcity poverty mentality and there’s an abundance and wealth mentality and those two mentalities couldn’t be farther removed from one another. I believe that the universe is abundant. I believe that I don’t have a fixed pie mentality. Like if you take a piece of the pie, they believe that there will be less for them. I don’t believe that; I believe there is more than enough pie for all of us. So if you get blessed, then that doesn’t mean there’s less blessing or less abundance. It just means there’s an increase in overflow. There’s more than enough for all of us. 

So when you get around people that aren’t always scared or operating in fear or operating in scarcity, you begin to level up your mindset. And when you think differently and you believe the universe is abundant, all of a sudden you start behaving differently. You start interacting with people differently. You make different decisions in your business and your mindset is irrevocably leveled up. SO your wins level up, your mindset levels up and your intentionality levels up. 

So that guy who got the $102,000 day of sales, he had a couple of sales come in and he was just shy of a hundred thousand… What he had in the back of his mind was the wins on the call and hitting another six figure milestone. And you know what, he was not content with where they were, so he said Team, we can cross over to that six figure mark. And he got on the phone and ended up making a call for several thousand so that he could cross over. That. Is. Intentionality. That is urgency. If you want to create your best life, it doesn’t happen by accident. You have got to level up your intentionality. 

Had another guy, he was like I want to clear a path for my wife to thrive. And that was on one mastermind call. I lead about 10 masterminds, and one community call every single week. And that one statement rippled through several different masterminds because I was quoting the guy because that is so awesome! And how did he clear a path for his wife to thrive? She is working, and they have got a new baby in the house… and he hired someone to come in twice a week to take care of the baby so that he could give her more space. And you know what – several other people hired some help to clear a path for their spouse to thrive. 

When there are those kinds of levels of intentionality that you get around, people have different options and all of a sudden it makes you level up your intentionality. 

And then this is the last one, the best for last. You level up the experiences in your life; the things you do, the places you go. And right now I am talking about those fun things. And there are those that would say, oh, that’s a once in a lifetime experience… it should be just another Tuesday. In fact, one of my clients had an event out of state, a wedding and a business conference. He needed to rent a car – he didn’t get a Toyota Camry or a Chevy Impala… he rented a Rolls-Royce. 

And here’s the thing, the same guy shared with me some wisdom. He said there are two different kinds of flex; some people flex because they want to feel significant and important. Then there are other people who are going to flex because it is going to lead to conversations. So flex for the conversations it will lead to. 

Like, another one of my clients is literally flying on a private jet to go to the masters to have an awesome week long experience. And for him that is not about flexing how cool he is or anything – it is about the conversations that are transformative. Back to my client with the Rolls-Royce, when he rolled up to the course, he  and a client went for a round of golf and had a million dollar conversation. 

It is not about the stuff, it is about the conversations, the connections, the relationships that those things can lead you to because you put yourself in a new environment, somebody can see you in a new light. And that can lead to some conversations that create new opportunities that will lead you to creating your best life. You are not going to do it without leveling up your proximity, leveling up your peer group. And when you do that you’re going to level up your wins, your mindset, your intentionality and your experiences. And those are going to lead to the right conversations, bigger impact, greater generosity… and how we can change the world because of what we are building. 

So I hope this served you, my challenge to you is to do something that puts you in new proximity; offer to buy someone lunch or coffee, go eat at a fancy restaurant, go drive in that fancy neighborhood you like… expose yourself to this new proximity and see if your thinking doesn’t begin to change because when you put yourself in abundance, you begin to think and see abundance at a higher level. 

This is where you should go out there and give your greatness to the world because somebody needs what is on the inside of you! I love you guys – Go give it away, don’t hold back!