Who is ready to get a little bit better? One of the things I love about doing what I dois the frameworks I teach… and how they are not stagnant, they continue to evolve and go deeper. I want to bring to you today, one of those frameworks I will use to answer this question: How do I take back my power? You have heard me say it over and over again: TAKE BACK YOUR POWER! And I say that because you need to take it back. You’re not weak, you are a powerful person if you choose to be, because when God created you, He filled you with potential and gave you power as a gift.
The reality is there are a whole lot of people living their lives, acting powerless and helpless. And they’ve relinquished it. Some of you have given away their power… and it is time for YOU to take it back. I hope you feel encouraged, you shouldn’t want to go and quit. Are you ready to take back your power?
HOW DO YOU TAKE BACK YOUR POWER?
If we have been playing the victim, if we’ve been acting powerless, HOW do we take it back? I am going to give your three mindsets that are absolutely 100% essential to doing just that. One of my favorite frameworks that I teach that creates sustainable transformation, the five D’s or the five framework is what we like to call them. I’m going to teach you about the big kahuna, number one today. It is the only one that is sequential of the five decisions, the foundation.
Above, that is the beginning, the starting point and that is the first mindset you need to take back your power. If you take back your power, the first step is to take 100% responsibility for your life. You’ve seen the success curve and the failure curve. The only difference between the two is the mindset of the success curve is RESPONSIBILITY. The mindset of the failure curve is blame; pointing fingers, acting powerless, playing the victim… woe is me.
I suggest reading The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson. I highly recommend it, and in his book, Jeff talks about the percentage breakdown of those who live on the success curve and those that live on the failure curve. 5% live on the success curve… that means 95% don’t, 95% are living on the failure curve and you really don’t have to wonder if that is accurate. I mean pull up a social media feed, turn on the news…. We have got way too many people playing the victim, acting powerless, and pointing the blame at other people. If you want to take back your power, you’ve got to take back your power, shift your mindset from the victim mentality to a mindset of responsibility. You must take 100% responsibility. If you don’t, you’re not going to have your best life.
When you are busy blaming everyone else, you are not going to take back your power, you’re not going to have the life you desire. In that situation you are powerless. You can play the victim and act powerless if you want to… but I am telling you, you’ve just got to take that back. Take back your power.
I’m going to give you a resource for each of these points. The book you should check out for growth is Mindset by Carol Dweck. It is a fabulous book, with loads of research. This book is one of the books that changed my life. It wasn’t a new concept because she talks about the growth mindset versus the fixed mindset. The growth mindset says, I can learn whatever I want to learn. I can become who I want to become, because it is not fixed or permanent. The fixed mindset says, I am what I am. The language of growth is becoming and if you live with a fixed mindset you cannot change.
The fixed mindset says, if you suck at math, that is what it is. If you’re an unkind person, that is what it is. You don’t get to be a kind person because your personality is just not that. The fixed mindset says you don’t get to become, you have to stay where you are. You have got to stay in the situation you live in, you have got to stay broke, you have got to stay unhappy in relationships, you have got to stay addicted.
It is on the failure curve; blame and playing the victim. These individuals typically have a fixed mindset. People who take full responsibility typically have a growth mindset.
The growth mindset says you can become and in my way of phrasing it would be who God designed you to be. Or if you prefer, you can become the best freaking version of yourself, wherever you are right now… YOU ARE NOT DONE. You are just getting started! You can become the best version of yourself BUT you have got to shift your mindset. If you want to take back your power, YOU are going to have to take full responsibility and you are going to have to have a growth mindset.
Bet you didn’t see that coming. You have got to have a creator mindset. When words come out of your mouth, when thoughts are thought in your mind, when you activate your imagination… You are creating. Again, my belief system may be a little different, but I think we can all agree that our thoughts and our words are creating and I believe that I am created in the image of God. And if my heavenly father is a creator I’m created in His image… so that makes me a creator, too. Now I am not God with the big “G” but I am made in His image, made to be like Him, made to create. And so you want to take back your power; you have got to take full responsibility. You have got to have growth. And you have got to take full ownership that you are a creator.
“I am” are two are the most powerful words in the English language. Whatever comes after those two words… YOU are creating! If you say, I am a loser, I am a failure, I am not enough… You can say those things if you want to, but this is why I’m a big proponent that life and death are in the power of your tongue. Whatever you’re speaking, you’re creating. Whatever you’re expecting, you’re creating.
And when you take full responsibility, read some books and have a growth mindset… then create your life (also, I highly recommend this next resource. It was written by a mentor of mine, Bill Walton and myself: Creating Your Best Life). In Creating Your Best Life, there is a whole entire chapter called the physics of creation. You want science to back up creating your best life, read the book! You can get it on Amazon. It will help shift your mindset from passive to active. From the mindset of life’s happening to me to life is happening for me. God put the power on the inside of me and you to create, He put the power to create life! And so you are a creator and need to have a creator mindset.
And what is the opposite of creating? If you are not creating, what are you doing? You are DESTROYING. Let that one sink in for a second. If you are not creating, you’re destroying; destroying the life you desire, destroying relationships, destroying the impact you have, destroying the ability to create wealth… and you are going to fall on the failure curve. You’re going to blame and play the victim and live into a fixed mindset: I am what I am, I can’t change it, I can’t become because I already am. You are going to be destroying your opportunity for the life you desire. Don’t do that.
When I wrote down the opposite of “creator” for the first time, I didn’t like it either because I was thinking there has to be a middle ground, but really if we are not FULLY in the Creator Mindset, we are destroying. And we know the quickest way to change is to face reality. And the reality is if you are not creating, YOU ARE DESTROYING the potential on the inside of you, relationships, the best version of who you are.
Take back your power and get these three mindsets locked in!! And when I say locked in, I mean these need to become instinctual to you that YOU take full responsibility, YOU grow every single day, and you create. We don’t arrive at our best, the work never stops. There will be days when you slip back into being the victim and powerless. Or thinking this is the way it is. And days when the worlds come out of our mouths and destroy our best life. None of us are perfect, we are all on a journey of becoming. I want to give you this gift of the three mindsets. If you begin to focus on these and shift your language, thinking, expectation (get a confident expectation of creating your best life – We talked a lot about that in our book). When you lock these three mindsets in, your life will progress consistently and you will continue on the path. It will be sustainable and all in the right timing. It may not work out the way you had envisioned, but it is going to be better and sustainable if you stay the course.
I want you to live a powerful life. There’s people counting on you to take back your power so that you can lead them to a better life! They’re counting on you. It’s not just about you taking back your power for YOU and having nice cars. Take back your power so that you can make a difference in this world because I believe that is a responsibility that is on every single one of us. I hope this encourages you today… this is where you go out there and give your greatness to the world because somebody needs what is on the inside of YOU!